Courting

This is a phrase that I feel has lost its true meaning. Traditionally, it has been perceived that it is the role of a male to actively "court" or "woo" a female, thus encouraging her interest in him and her receptiveness to a relationship. What I would like to know is how come this stops after they are in a relationship. If we work that hard at the possibility of a relationship, how come we stop once we have it?

I hear time and time again that the reason spouses/girlfriends/boyfriends/ significant others look outside of the relationship is because "the chase is part of the excitement." They have come to believe that the relationship they are currently in is a sure thing were as the chase is opportunity. Yet, these same individuals seem confused as to why their spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend/significant other leaves them. My comment is "I guess it wasn't as sure of a thing as you thought".

On the other side, I have individuals that have been married for 10, 15, 20 years tell me that their relationship has lost its spark and have become content and complacent with their relationship. Their excuse is "This is what happens when you have been married this long." I am here to tell you that, that is a load of crap. What is the real reason we allow our relationship to become content or complacent; We truly don't want to have to put forth the effort to "woo" or "court" our spouse. We to believe that our relationship is a "Sure thing" so why put forth the effort.

Now days we "date", this boggles my mind. It is believed that "dating" is the up to date word for "courting". For me it doesn't feel like the same word nor does it seem to have the same meaning. Say the two words and see which word resonates more with you. To me a "date" is something I have with a friend or a business associate. We do something together that doesn't require alot of interaction such as a movie, or shopping. Yes, we are spending time together, but not really putting anything of quality into it. If we do eat together it is at a fast food restaurant or a sit down place that doesn't encourage dowdling. We visit over our food and then move on. Either way how much can be exchanged in a noisy restaurant?

I honestly prefer being and doing the "courting". What does this mean? You actually plan something. Yep, I said plan. Does it have to have a specific date, nope. I am sure you have heard of random acts of kindness, my question to you is when was the last time you did this for whom ever you are in a relationship with? Here is a "courting" suggestion for you. The weather has been awesome today and it seems to be willing to hold out for the rest of the day. How about if you took time tonight as the sun is setting, grap a glass of wine(juice, soda or whatever), a blanket(lounge chairs), and your spouses hand. Go outside to sit and enjoy each others company as you watch the sunset. Yes, I encourage you to continue holding your spouses hand the whole time. To me this is "courting". If you are not in a relationship do this for yourself. When was the last time you "courted" you.

I surrender & trust
Guidance for today: Be an Activist & Commited.

Luck

What is this? According to my Oxford dictionary it means 1. Good or Bad luck. 2. Circumstances of life brought by this. If you notice neither one of these definitions states what role you may have in creating luck. I say this as I have sibling that says all the time how "If he didn't have bad luck he wouldn't have any luck at all." I on the other hand am constantly surprised at how things work out for me. Currently, I watching how luck plays out with my children. Example: My daughter wanted to buy a bag of toys for our dog. The price on it said $10 and she only had $1.50. I told her she didn't have enough, she was insistent though saying it was in the $1 box. She wouldn't listen to what I was saying, I allowed her to take it to the check out to buy it. It rang up $5.99, she informed the clerk it was in the $1 box, you know what the clerk did, yep changed it and gave it to her for the dollar. I seriously contemplated having her tell the clerk how much my groceries where. Now, I ask you was she lucky or did she create it? I say it is both. She knew it was $1 and nothing was going to change her mind. How many of us can say the same about things we want? Do we have the unwavering belief and faith that it is or do we question? I am beginning to believe that "Luck" has more to do with what we believe and our own belief on "deserving it". Cause if something good happens we question "How come". So my challenge to you this week is create your own luck. Ask for something, believing that it is yours and wait for it to appear.

I Surrender & Trust
Guidance for today is: Confidence, Speak Your Truth, Triumphant

Comfort Zone

Comfort Zone
I have come to realize that children are here to not only drive you nuts but to push your comfort zone so you will grow. I say this as I have two children that are constantly pushing me to see things from a different point of view or do things that I am not comfortable with. I also think that teachers give homework to the children not for the children to do, but to remind their parents of things they have learned and of skills they have. My daughter is currently working on two projects; one is a science and the other a county float. The county float caused her to cheerful inform me that Utah is huge. If my children were not pushing my comfort level enough I will create a friend or other family member that will ask me to do something that I am currently not feeling comfortable with. Such as performing or conducting a memorial service. (My father-in-law has asked me to do his) I feel I have awhile before actually having to face this particular event. However, I was asked to do one for a dear friend recently (I think this was a test run). I did learn a few things that if ever asked again I would do first. For this I am grateful.

My question to you to day is what have you become comfortable with doing? I am comfortable with performing wedding ceremonies, so guess what, my comfort level was pushed. I told this to you as a warning. If you become to comfortable with something then puff you will be pushed to do that thing at a higher or different way. So be prepared. Getting out of your comfort zone is a good thing though, it does help you grow. Yeah.

Side note: If you don't willingly push your comfort zone, your guides will.

I Surrender & Trust

Guidance: Generosity, Believe, Be Brave

Greed

What is Greed? This is a conversation my husband and I have been having. He has been reading a book on "Greed" and from the books perspective it is an emotion we all have that tells us "You want more". If you want a better car, education, living condition, or more money you are "greedy". I can not help but take offense to this. How is it that wanting more for myself or my family makes me "greedy"? The author says it is a disease that we "Americans" suffer from. We are never satisfied, we are in constant pursuit of the "American Dream" rising from the scums to become a millionaire and the only way to accomplish this is through "greed". Again I take offense, most individuals that I know do not want to be millionaires, however they do want to live better and provide for themselves and their families. I honestly don't feel this is being "greedy". For me this is simply a "desire". What is the difference? Desire as I have stated before is a feeling that motivates you to achieve. I will acknowledge that Greed does the same thing. However, the motivating feeling itself is completely different. Greed is dark and heavy. Have you ever meet someone who was "Greedy"? I have, and they are only out for themselves; no one else. Even if they have friends or family. The only reason they are after anything is for themselves ( they don't share). They are egotistical, snappy, and quick to condemn. For me "Greed" is the dark side of "Desire". You may start off wanting more which can grow into a strong desire of doing and being more to achieve it. Desire feels exciting and new. It becomes "Greed" the minute you decide to sacrifice anyone and anything. You are willing to do harm, illegal, unethical and moral wrong to achieve it.

I will continue to disagree with the author and say I am not "greedy". I won't say that I haven't felt like being "greedy" on occasion, however I chose "desire" instead.

What are your thoughts, are you "greedy?"


Guidance: Manifestation, Spiritual Growth, Idea's & Inspiration

Surrender & Trust

Dare to Dream

As children we can do anything. We believe we can fly to the moon and will create ways to do it. Even though it may appear as if we haven't even left the backyard. As we get older we are told more and more to stop "Daydreaming", to "Get our mind out of the clouds". How many of us have allow our minds to wander off into nothing when sitting at the office, a desk or sometimes in the middle of a conversation? I have.

At what point do we lose that part of us? Does it happen automatically when we turn 18 or 21? Does it happen when we reach our 30's as this is when we are "Suppose to settle down and be responsible"? I can not help but hold onto the thought that we don't really stop dreaming, it is more likely that we are being told what is "acceptable" to dream.

For me Dreams are obtainable possibilities that I aim for. The great things about dreams is they do not ever have a deadline. Dreams also have no limits. When I give myself permission to imagine reaching a dream, that child like wonder and excitement reappears. I love the way it feels so I dare myself to dream daily.

How often do you?

My dream for this year is being created and I will share it with you once I have finalized it. Until than. My guidance for today is:

Sleep (unsure), Heaven is watching (unsure), & Don't Compromise (unsure)

Crystal Skulls

I was in a local metaphysical shop earlier this week to pick up a new crystal (as you can never have to many). I used to love going into this store when it was in a different location. The feeling isn't as welcoming and it smells. Enough said on that.
As I walked around I noticed that they had a few new things one of them being, "Crystal Skulls". I immediately flashed to the more recent Indiana Jones movie and a SG-1 episode, this of course had me chuckling. I continued perusing and was accosted by a young girl walking around with her friend. They were obviously new to this type of stuff, full of questions, side comments and loud bantering. I answered the questions they were kind enough to wait for. I could tell the clerk was attempting to keep them interested. I made my selection, purchased it and was headed out when this same young girl came at me with a "Crystal Skull", "what is this for, why do they have this, what would you do with one, these are so weird." I looked at her with wonder and replied. "Would you like the real version or the Hollywood version?" I lost her because than she walked away asking "What movie where Crystal Skulls in?" I left gladly leaving the clerk with them.

The reason for me writing about this is due to the current belief's that are flying around about the "2012". Did I lose you? I won't go into the connection as it maybe to long for this letter. Needless to say, my questions are "Are you afraid the world is ending in 2012?", "If so how is this belief effecting the life you are currently living?"

What to do?

It's the beginning of the year, do you know where you are going? Better yet do you know where you want to go? When I ask clients what they want they immediately reply "happy", "rich" or "lose weight" . While these see simple and reasonable, the question still remains "How do you plan on getting there?" For most the to do list begins with; if I just do this or if I did that I could do it. The next statement is "How do I motivate myself to do it?". Well first motivation comes from the excitement or value you may receive from doing something. If you are not excited it isn't going to happen, because your heart isn't into it. Now, what are you willing to give up or do to receive the benefits from achieving these? Yes, you do have to give something up.

Here is a challenge my challenge to you; have you ever planned a trip? What did you do to prepare for it? What steps did you take to make it happen? How excited where you to go?